Reclaiming The True Essence Of Valentine’s Day

Reclaiming The True Essence Of Valentine’s Day

The history of Valentine’s Day is rooted in the story of Saint Valentine, a Roman priest who defied Emperor Claudius II’s decree banning soldiers from marriage.

Valentine secretly officiated weddings, believing in the power of love and commitment.

For his defiance, he was executed on February 14, around 269 AD.

Over time, his legacy evolved into a celebration of romantic love.

However, his actions embodied a broader message: love is an act of courage, sacrifice, and devotion, not just fleeting romance.

It is, however, worrisome that modern-day Valentine’s Day has drifted far from its original essence.

Retailers push consumers into buying expensive gifts, leading many to equate love with material possessions.

Social media amplifies this pressure, making people feel that love must be measured in grand displays rather than in everyday kindness and genuine connection.

Social media platforms have turned Valentine’s Day into a competition of grand romantic gestures.

Lavish gifts, surprise trips, and luxurious displays of affection, creating an unspoken pressure to meet unrealistic standards.

For many, the fear of not measuring up can lead to anxiety, disappointment, and even relationship strain.

The focus has shifted from meaningful relationships to external validation.

To restore the true spirit of Valentine’s Day, people must rethink how to express love, not just to romantic partners but to friends, families, and even strangers.

The true spirit of the day can be actualized if all forms of love are celebrated.

Love is not limited to romance. Valentine’s Day should also honour the love between friends, family members, and even the kindness one extends to others.

Nigerians can use the day to reach out to those who might feel lonely, for instance, an elderly neighbour, a struggling friend, or a distant relative.

There’s also the need to practice self-love. Before we can truly love others, we must love ourselves.

Instead of seeking external validation, one can use Valentine’s Day as a moment to appreciate one’s own worth, as well as engage in activities that bring joy and self-fulfillment.

During Valentine’s Day, people can focus on acts of kindness.

Instead of lavish gifts, consider thoughtful gestures like writing a heartfelt letter, volunteering, or simply spending quality time with loved ones.

Small acts of kindness often carry more meaning than expensive presents.

It’s also not out of place to revive the tradition of handwritten notes.

In a digital world, a handwritten note expressing gratitude and love can be far more meaningful than a generic text message.

The tradition of personal letters, just as Saint Valentine did before his execution, can also be revived.

Let us detach from commercial expectations and exploitation.

Love can not be bought. During this Valentine’s Day, focus on meaningful experiences rather than costly purchases.

A simple walk, a shared meal, or a deep conversation can be more valuable than any material gift.

Valentine’s Day should be a reminder of love in its purest, most selfless form, not just romantic love, but love for humanity, for oneself, and for those in need.

By Sandra Udeike, Edited By Grace Namiji